Does Nudism Improve Self-Esteem?
Nudism Improves Self-Esteem - I was in the locker room at the Travasuns pool party, getting dressed to leave when another woman doing the same started openly lamenting her weight and figure. “I need to lose weight,” she said, “I wish I looked like you.” My response was, “Now that is the wrong mentality!”
Have you ever had somebody else envy your body, complain about certain parts of their bodies, or judge themselves out loud? They say things like, “I’m so fat,” “I wanna get really skinny / I need to lose weight,” “I need to have a flat stomach.” I have definitely spent too much time trying to convince friends with low self-esteem that they were not “fat,” that their body and size were “normal,” and that they didn’t need to lose weight. But it’s not that easy to change how other people feel about their bodies. Some people, when they look in the mirror, start judging and criticizing themselves about every little bit of flab and flaw. They don’t see what you see when they look in the mirror.
You might think that since I grew up as a nudist that I’d have great self-esteem and effortlessly feel good about my body. I did spend many of my summers in social nudism, but the rest of the year I was living in the textile world. I read fashion and beauty magazines and still felt pressure to look good, wear trendy clothing and make-up in school. I was very shy and insecure (admittedly still a little shy sometimes). I was and still am thin, but that didn’t keep me from judging my own body and living with a fear of getting fat. I had this terrible mental habit of comparing my own body to those of other girls, from the ones I saw in real life to the models in the magazines, to figure out what I should look like. Am I as skinny as she is? Do I have cellulite? Are my thighs too fat? I wish I had straighter lines in my figure like her. My friend, who also grew up as a nudist, developed an eating disorder in college, in spite of her deep involvement in nudism. It just goes to show how invasive the skinny=beautiful notion is. Also, did anyone enter college in fear of gaining the “Freshman 15”? It doesn’t even exist.
The reality is that it doesn’t matter what your size is or what you look like if your mind has been infected with a sense of inadequacy. People of any shape and size can feel ugly, inadequate and overweight, and so many young women (and men, but less so) are obsessed with getting thin. That’s what today’s beauty and fashion magazines are counting on to make money, from women especially. Thank you, Ashley Judd, for recently standing up against the ridiculous puffy-face accusations and using it for discussion about the objectification of women. Read her letter here. She brings up a good point: women judge each other and participate in patriarchy, too!
But wait! You don’t have to listen to all those messages telling you you’re not good enough, need to diet, or need plastic surgery! I want to share this awesome video from Laci Green, sex-positive blogger and sex-ed teacher, about having better self-esteem. Her advice can make a difference. No more beauty, fashion, gossip magazines (I’m definitely happier without them, and I say avoid Cable TV commercials too). No more judging your own body or others’ bodies (pay attention to that inner dialogue). And my favorite: Get Naked! If you’re not a naturist, you can start going nude at home. Then, I think one of the BEST ways to feel good about yourself is to see the beautiful, uncensored bodies of people in real life who are confident and comfortable just as they are. This is one reason I love naturism.
You can also read Laci’s tips here.
Nudism Improves Self-Esteem
About the Author (Author Profile)Jordan Blum is a lifelong nudie and co-founder of Young Naturists America.
I guess so. When everyone's nude all our imperfections are on display (so to speak) and nobody really cares. It's nice :)
this is an interesting blog... My wife is 5'6 and weighs 121 lbs, and at 36, I think she looks great...but she is WAY too critical of herself...thinking that she is still "fat" to wear certain clothes, or to be seen nude (or nearly nude). On the flip-side, she does have a commendable goal of working to get to 18% body fat. She wants "ripped" abs, and nicely toned muscles. I won't lie - I think those who can reach that level of body fat in a HEALTHY, ATHLETIC WAY is commendable....and looks very attractive, yet bodies who aren't "18% BF" are very attractive as well. What worries me if when people try and reach weight goals and look emaciated, unhealthy, mal-nourished... This is the opposite of those 'marathon' or 'triathalon' types who reach that BF level based on their healthy lifestyle. I don't think it is wrong for those to strive to be lean AND HEALTHY - just not lean for the sake of looking 'thin'. Pick up a "Runners" magazine and then look at some of the other mags that are nothing but thin, emaciated "models' - and anyone will clearly see the difference. Lean and FIT is beautiful... emaciated is not...even if both have the same BF %. Anyways, just my $0.02
Thanks for the comment Greg! Yes, I think a lot of women are TOO critical of their bodies! They look in the mirror and criticize themselves or can't even bring themselves to look in the mirror at their naked figures at all. I'm all for losing weight for health reasons and in a healthy way, not for the goal of looking emaciated or malnourished! But a lot of women want to lose weight for appearance, to look thin, and using crash diets, juice diets, and extreme measures to do it. I wish they would focus more on how they feel in their bodies rather than what the scale says or how other women/models look in comparison. I think many women also don't realize they're trying to match themselves to one body type, when in reality we are all unique. And we should celebrate the unique because as Laci says, it'd be *boring* if we all looked like the model type!
I am a 21 year girl from India, here there is no nudist resort and beach. Where I will practice nudism, i know nudism is great. My email is [email protected] Let me know in India where i can do nudism.